Acturally, this reading note is about the third chapeter of 《 Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn》. This is a good book without doubt, depends on my English Ability, so I could not understand it very well, so I didn’t make any nots util now. But my friend Chris told me, it’s time to do something! So, yes, do it without doubt.
It is easier to go from failure to success than it is from excuses to success.
We win sometimes, so we also fail sometime, but that is not really, becouse when we fail must something we didn’t work good enough, so the mistake is easy to find out. But what if we want to learn something from a success… Actually, we may have reasons to fail, but the methods for success are totally different.
The main topic is about reality, so there are three realities of life,
First, life is difficult. YES! Life is really difficult, no matter we are children or adults. Let me give you an example, we cannot real control everything, even thought ourselves. If you readed 《The Happiness Hypothesis：Find Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom》（《象与骑象人》）, you will know that we can only co-operate with ourselves, sometimes our mind, our thought, our movement are not link together, especially when we are emotional. But we can use some method to adjust our hard thoughts. If you want to know more, please buy the book. So M. Scott Peck said, “If we don’t understand and accept the truth that life is difficult, then we set ourselves up for failure and we won’t learn” in his book which is 《The Road Less Traveled》.
Second, life is diffult for everyone. Haha! That is not trick but truth. No matter how much saying in the world are about the life is easy, and I don’t believe that, even I am still young. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “The Walking Of Man Is Falling Forwards”. For me, I made many stupid mistakes often, such as hurt my parents’ heart, didn’t care someone wants to help me. We cannot ignore that, either escape, but accept. We can try to accept how much mistakes we have made before.
Thrid, life is more difficult for some than for others… Life is unfair, so we don’t have to compaire us with others,
ONE of the keys to winning is to not make things even harder for yourself, which is unfortunately, what many people seem to do. So we’d better avoid those five pitfalls.
First, LIFE IS MORE DIFFICULT FOR THOSE WHO STOP GROWING AND LEARNING.
In my opinion, If I stop growing and learning, I will loss all of my energy and my confidence, I am this kind of person want to challenge myself all the time. We can seem this reality word a RPG game, we are the main character in the game in earth, so if we want to get more. we have to pay more, the best method is learning.
Second, LIFE IS MORE DIFFICULT FOR THOSE WHO DON’T THINK EFFECTIVELY.
How many time do you usually spend as thinking yourself? For me I seldom do that, but when I was a student, I had many time, and I didn’t that huge homeworks, I spent lots of time to read and think porfoundly, then I found the world is not as same as we see it,
Third, LIFE IS MORE DIFFICULT FOR THOSE WHO DON’T FACE REALITY.
I love the saying from Denis Waitley, “Most people spend their entire lives on a fantasy island called Someday I’ll”. So they don’t live in present, also not in reality. Everyone who got where they are, started where they were.
Forth, LIFE IS MORE DIFFICULT FOR THOSE WHO ARE SLOW TO MAKE PROPER ADJESTMENTS.
Fifth, LIFE IS MORE DIFFICULT FOR THOSE WHO DON’T RESPOND CORRECTLY TO CHALLENGES.